My husband is a far better money manager than I am, and a better negotiator too, so he does the hard, boring bit (imo), BUT I am equal and can do as I wish, when I wish, with all the passwords and no questions (I suppose if I suddenly went mad and drained the accounts with no warning he might say something LOL! If your husband is a miser, he’s probably trying to do the same thing I do. I wanted my husband to get his shit together and stop paying fees on his credit cards. Does your husband ever make decisions you don’t agree with? He was retired when he is about 54 years old. My journalistic journey has taken me from Forbes to Money to Kiplinger's Personal Finance to U.S. News and World Report, where I developed the "Second Acts" column back in … If it is, then the surviving spouse is entitled to receive all of their husband’s personal possessions together with a legacy of £250,000 from his Estate. We have been married a year and I am 5 months prego. Lovely ! So I try to do more with less. I am 40 years old and we have two daughters, 9 years and 14 years old. My husband has been moody since we got back from vacation. * Find out his expenditure habits. One of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. It’s like nothing is good enough and I just can’t bring myself to do anything for him because he will complain or easily get annoyed with any ideas I offer up which conflict with his own. Many of the people who believe they are better off MFS think that because they are not preparing their returns properly. On the nights his best friend comes over, my husband makes me wear a low cut dress with no bra so that when I serve food bending over, his friend can see all of my t***. I didn’t want to pay all the stupid bills. I know he makes way more money than me bc he always has wads of money in his pockets. Dear Carolyn: My sister stays home with her two small children (2 and 1) while her partner works. 1. Then he got divorce to his first wife, i dont know exactly the main reason bout it but all i hear is all about money. ; Maybe he spends too much money, is super lazy, or spends his Sunday mornings in bed because he doesn’t think going to church is necessary. I am a woman who makes more than my husband and our situation is growing less unique by the day. I am glad you are asking for opinion…. I have never been able to work part-time because we can't afford for me to do so. Joseph Morgan*, 34, a real estate investor who makes five times as much as his freelance writer … That’s a good step forward. (Some time for myself would be nice too.) I can’t control how much money I make. Plus, my husband often says that, God willing, as we grow in our respective careers and make more money, it’s his hope to take over the majority of bills. and my family had to foot the remainder. “Even if your husband earns more money, there is a tax benefit of claiming two deductions — one for each spouse — on the returns,” says David Waltzer, a New York-based lawyer. We both work independent jobs. My husband is very hard working man tight with money wen it comes to giving me money or even buying me something .bt when we first got married or even before that he bought me lots of things .I just don't understand why he changed .and every time I ask for something he say I … I didn't like that in the beginning, but now it turns me on. ET He picks on things I say and do. A common solution, then, is to split the expenses in proportion to your incomes. * Note Down all the expenses of your family (items and amount including your husband). ... but he makes … It is uncommon that MFS is a better choice than MFJ. My dad gave me some really good advice about money - he told me that him and his wife put ALL the money together regardless of who was earning what, then they would that use the money to pay for rent/bills/food/debts and only when there was nothing else to pay for then whatever is left is slipt 50/50. Dilemma #1: The High Earner Makes Unilateral Money Decisions. We eat out on my husband’s salary. I asked my husband about this and he said its unlikely because he is still figuring his career and life out and I bring home the most money. The money I earned as a journalist was barely a drop in the bucket compared to what my husband brought in, but I felt lucky to be doing what I loved, and it never occurred to me that I … For our day-to-day lives, I contribute zilch. My husband and I need to rewrite our will. It might sound pretty sweet to have your partner taking care of you financially, but some people can feel uncomfortable and even inadequate if their spouse or partner makes more money … My husband is the police chief. I’m starting to become resentful towards him over this. He keeps all the extra in his pocket. The one sticking point was with money. The Moneyist I earn twice my husband’s salary and pay all the bills — now he hides all his savings Published: Oct. 14, 2019 at 1:57 p.m. My husband has been through many jobs, and had his own business for a decade, which didn't make much money. Never mind the bruises I was sporting. Usually his paychecks were never enough for the bills. I, on the other hand, work a part-time job and make about 25,000 a year. 'My husband only cares about money, not about me' ... because I was in a relationship with my husband for 7 years before we decided to settle down. My heart hurts for you all. I admit it. Most of the time, this money was spent on things both spouses wanted, like vacations, clothing, restaurants and cars. In … If, however, the husband leaves a spouse and children or grandchildren surviving him, then his Residuary Estate is potentially divided differently if the value is worth more than £250,000. I can control what I do with the money I make. He only gives me enough money for the bills now and nothing extra. I never thought I wanted to be a stay at home mom, but now that I have a small child I just want to be with her all … Maybe he goes to the bar regularly but you don’t think Christians should drink. Dear Bossip, My husband I have been together for 24 years and married for 18 years. 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